Spring is almost here! We can hear the birds singing in Greenwich today! Wohoo! This is an exciting development!
GOT BOYS? Check out this film screening and book:
If you are a mother of a son (as I am), you may be interested in attending a local screening in your community of the film The Mask You Live In. It was an Official Selection of the Sundance Film Festival 2015. The Mask You Live In follows boys and young men as they struggle to stay true to themselves while negotiating America’s narrow definition of masculinity. Pressured by the media, their peer group, and even the adults in their lives, our protagonists confront messages encouraging them to disconnect from their emotions, devalue authentic friendships, objectify and degrade women, and resolve conflicts through violence. These gender stereotypes interconnect with race, class, and circumstance, creating a maze of identity issues boys and young men must navigate to become “real” men.
Experts in neuroscience, psychology, sociology, sports, education, and media also weigh in, offering empirical evidence of the “boy crisis” and tactics to combat it. The Mask You Live In ultimately illustrates how we, as a society, can raise a healthier generation of boys and young men.
I will be attending a screening of this in Greenwich, CT on Tuesday, March31st at the Bow Tie Criterion Cinemas – I encourage you to join if you live in the area and have a son! Click here for information and tickets – this will sell out and there is only one showing.
When my son was in Pre-K last year, as the youngest of three kids, with two older sisters, I wanted to do some reading on better understanding gender roles in children (for myself). As a warm, loving, sweet boy who loves spending time with his two sisters (they were all born within 36 months and are very close), I wanted to learn about how to (or even whether to at all) incorporate gender roles into my family life. What should the expectations be between sons and daughters, boys and girls? Should there be any differences in the way they play, the way they communicate, the way they interact – boy playdates vs girl playdates? At what age should boys and girls stop playing together – is this society telling us one thing when kids are in elementary school, or is it what they really want. How much should I push my son as a pre-K child to detach at school, at drop-off, around other kids. Is this necessary for his development (really) or should this be a natural process. As a mother, I wanted to understand the best ways to communicate and interact with my son to ensure a happy, balanced life for him. He is 6 now, and I ended up reading Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons From the Myths of Boyhood by William Pollack, Ph.D.
This book was published before the above film came out and I feel that the two are a good synergy. Here’s the book synopsis – it definitely gave me a new perspective on parenting a boy: Featuring a new preface by the author on how parents can make a difference. With author appearances on Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20 /20 and NPR’s Fresh Air, and featuring articles in Newsweek, Time, and The New York Times, Real Boys is one of the most talked-about and influential books published this year. Based on William Pollack’s groundbreaking research at Harvard Medical School over two decades, Real Boys explores why many boys are sad, lonely, and confused although they may appear tough, cheerful, and confident. Pollack challenges conventional expectations about manhood and masculinity that encourage parents to treat boys as little men, raising them through a toughening process that drives their true emotions underground. Only when we understand what boys are really like, says Pollack, can we help them develop more self-confidence and the emotional savvy they need to deal with issues such as depression, love and sexuality, drugs and alcohol, divorce, and violence.
It was an interesting read — it definitely gave me a new perspective as a female parenting a son. I recommend it.
I just finished The Impossible Lives of Greta Wells. Then, over this past weekend, I traveled to Palm Beach and grabbed The Girl on the Train at the airport. I finished it within a day! I couldn’t put it down! Hungry for a few new good books, I got some great input from my friends Tia, Lauren and Lindley. I was given a good list and I ordered last night on Amazon the following four, which should get me through the next few weeks. I thought I would include them here in case any of you are heading off on Spring Break and needed some good reads. I think I’m going to start with “Me Before You”…Comment below if you have read any of these!
If you are heading on Spring Break shortly – and are in need of a bathing suit, check out the collection at Anthropologie! They seem to have the cutest suits that cover up all the right places!
Need a new song for your playlist? Download “OHIO (Filious Remix) by Damien Jurado. Click here to buy it on iTunes! It’s a great song to listen to when sitting by the water! It’s chill and inspirational…
Enjoy decorating this Spring! It’s always fun to add a few new pieces to your home each year. Check out the fabulous wall art at The Well Appointed House. There are lots of new items – click here for the whole collection. (By the way, there is a 20% OFF SALE on wall art now on and ending soon). This is one of my personal new favorites: