Love Languages – Which One Do You Speak?

A friend of mine was recently telling me a funny story about her husband, and she casually mentioned in the conversation that, “he speaks a different love language than I do”.  She was really on a roll with the story, and I didn’t want to interrupt and take us off topic.  Later that evening, when I was relaxing in bed, reading the news on my iPad, scrolling through Instagram and the other nighttime rituals I have,  I googled “love language”.   It was a term I had never heard before and I had made a mental note in that earlier conversation to look it up.  I came across this book, “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts” by Gary Chapman.  When I saw the words “#1 New York Times Bestseller” and went on to see that over 11 million copies have been sold, and that it is the #12th most sold book on Amazon – I scratched my head, perplexed at how I had never heard of it before.  I was curious enough to buy the book and  I read it quickly last week while on Spring Break.  It was a very quick and easy read, but it’s one of those books where lightbulbs go off as you are reading – I surely had the same experience that millions of other people have had. That “aha” moment – it all makes such perfect sense, though the idea that we all speak different love languages had never occurred to me. I’ve been married for 15 years  and with my husband for 18.  How did I not notice sooner that we each have different preferred love languages?  I always knew that we expressed things differently, but I could never really nail down exactly what the difference was.  This book really made it all so clear.   I think its a must read for newly engaged couples.  If every soon-to-be married couple both read this book before starting their lives together, I think communication would be a lot better.  Aside from understanding the various ways different people (not just men v/s women) demonstrate their love, but to see in the many case studies that Chapman provides –  the conflicts that can arrive in relationships between two people who don’t speak the same love language – is truly eye opening.  The best part of the book is the guidance given on how to speak each other’s love language and how improved relationships become. I highly recommend it to anyone involved with someone else! Click the image below to purchase! Hopefully you are curious to know A) what the five love languages are and B) which one you speak! -Melissa Hawks


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